discussion: why do we have to stop calling books “underrated”? (spoiler: we don’t).

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Hello, friends!

I know today’s discussion is probably going to be coming from an “unpopular perspective”, but my experience through Twitter has made me realize a lot of things about the book community. Including that it can be quite annoying, lol.

So, today’s post was inspired by a lot of tweets I’ve seen of people questioning what an “underrated book” really is. And, apparently, people have very STRONG reactions when you use the word “underrated”, lol.


First and foremost, what is the meaning of “underrated”?

“Not rated or valued highly enough”.

We typically use this word to talk about books that we don’t see enough people praising or hyping up and that we feel like deserve more recognition.

So, here’s how I feel about it. (Pls, feel free to disagree with me in the comments!)

ONE. THE BOOK COMMUNITY IS NOT A MONOLITH

Like any other community, the bookish one is also full of “bubbles”. In the sense that, if you’re in book twitter, your experience will probably be different from if you’re on book tube, or even book blogging.

I know of books that are very popular amongst book bloggers and yet, I hardly ever see booktubers talking about it. An example is C.G. Drews’ books. As a blogger, Cait’s books are very well known within the book blogging community, as well as bookstagram, but not necessarily amongst booktube.

So for people who consume mostly booktube content, it’s possible that they’d have never heard of A Thousand Perfect Notes or The Boy Who Steals Houses.

Not only that, but some creators focus more in one genre than the other. There are some cult-classic adult fantasy out there that I’d never heard about in my life. That, of course, doesn’t mean these books are “underrated” simply because I have never heard of them, BUT it can create the feeling amongst others that this book doesn’t get recognition enough because it’s not talked about in the bubbles I am in. (Which is not the adult-fantasy bubble).

This disparity even happens between countries! There are some titles that were very popular in the US and, yet, were never published in Brazil (where I live), because Brazilian readers are not interested in this type of content. Meaning that, if I was to talk about a book for Brazilian readers, even if it’s very well-known for an American audience, it can be a completely new title for them.

It’s also important to remember that not everyone who reads is in the community actively every day. Some people simply walk into Barnes and Noble and pick up whatever seems interesting to them. And that probably means that the books who are not in the “best-sellers” display shelves probably come across as “underrated” for them, because their metric is not what’s being talked about in social media, but what’s being advertised as popular.

TWO. THIS LOWKEY LEADS TO GATE-KEEPING

Gate-keeping’s definition is “the activity of controlling, and usually limiting, general access to something”.

Even though I’m sure that some people don’t consider this a big deal, I imagine it must be discouraging to tweet about what you believe to be an “underrated” or “not appreciated enough” book just to be made fun of.

The book community should be for everyone, including the people who only read popular books! And if by their definition, this book is not “appreciated enough”, whether that is in their community and following/followers, aka, inside *their* bubble, they should be able to express that without feeling embarrassed.

When I first joined book blogging, I was very scared because I didn’t read enough books, and most importantly, I hadn’t read some really “popular” series (like Throne of Glass, Daughter of Smoke & Bone, The Lunar Chronicles). And, at the time, that was the sentiment: that some series were must-reads and in order to take part in some of those discussions, I felt the need to also read them.

Now that the sentiment has changed, meaning that the book community has grown so much that people have become tired of hearing about the same books and want more “refreshing” and “not as well-known” recommendations, the feeling also changes: now I should *not* be reading the popular books and, instead, turning into something else.

It’s a lot to keep up with.

(I also won’t even get in the discussion that when people say they want “refreshing” recommendations, what they really mean is: “I want a book series exactly like this really popular one but that is not as big”, not *actually* unknown books, such as translated works by marginalized authors.)

Basically: let people say what they want, lol. It shouldn’t bother you this much.

THREE. CHECK YOUR FOLLOWING!

I do understand that some people may feel like the act of having popular books being classified as “underrated” gets in the way of *actual* indie books being talked about in the way they should. But I consider that more a problem with the following and the part of the community you’re interacting with.

If you feel like you’re only being recommended the same books over and over, and even the “underrated” recs are already familiar to you, then perhaps that means you need to refresh your following!

There are a lot of bloggers and booktubers out there who are constantly recommending indie authors/self-published books, or simply books that are less talked about in the community.

(A personal favorite of mine is Ashley @ Bookish Realm, who’s a librarian, and has a lot of recommendations for all different genres/age groups for less-known books).

I think this feeling of frustration from people misusing the word “underrated” could change if people just followed people who then, actually gave them the “underrated” recs they’re looking for.

FOUR. THE “1,000 REVIEWS” IS NOT A GOOD ENOUGH METRIC

I’ve also heard people trying to now coin the term “underrated” to only be used when a book has less than 1,000 reviews on Goodreads.

This metric doesn’t work not only because Goodreads is not ~the~ platform, and there are plenty of people out there who read a ton and talk about their reads online and who still don’t use it.

Our Wayward Fate by Gloria Chao. Despite this book only having 814 ratings on Goodreads, I have 10 friends on Goodreads who either have read it or marked it as to-read, meaning they’ve heard about it. Gloria Chao is actually a well-known author, at least in my online bubble.

A Thousand Fires, by Shannon Price. This book only has 366! ratings on Goodreads, and yet, I remember seeing it in SO many lists of “end of the year” releases back in 2019. So much so, I was intrigued to pick it up. (And I’m not one for reading “””indie””” books).

Let’s Call It a Doomsday, by Katie Henry. This book does have over a 1,000 ratings on Goodreads and yet I hardly ever see anyone talking about Katie Henry, even though I mostly follow people who also talk about YA contemporary a ton. (To compare it to Wayward Fate, only 5 of my Goodreads friends have it marked).

A Boy Worth Knowing, by Jennifer Cosgrove. This one has close to 2,000 ratings on Goodreads, and yet, when I talked about it in my recommendations post, all the comments said they’d never heard of it before. (Only 3 friends have it marked).

Now, of course, that experiment doesn’t really mean anything, as I am comparing it to *my* perspective – aka *my* Goodreads friends, *my* comments, and what *I* see in other blogs. Which just further proves my point that the whole debacle of using or not using the word “underrated” is dumb because every person in the community is going to have a different perspective on what’s popular/what’s not.

Also, there are a lot of books who were particularly popular when they came out (2016, 2017), but are not as talked about today. And it doesn’t mean whatever discussion that book evokes is no longer relevant. So if that means adding a popular book from 2016 into an “underrated books” list, if that will make people more interested in picking it up than if it was a “backlist reads” list, then so be it! “Old” books can still be relevant. (It’s tragic to even think that 2016 books are considered “old”, when that was literally 4 years ago, lol. But that’s a discussion for another day).

SO: what are your thoughts? Do you get frustrated when you see someone talking about a popular book/author being underrated, or you don’t care? Do you think a metric should exist for how we talk about these books? What are some of YOUR personal favorite “underrated” reads? Let’s chat in the comments!

kaleidoscope of tropes #6: two bros chillin’ in a hot tub only one feet apart even if they’re not gay

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Hello, friends!

First of all, I apologize for the gigantic title. I ended up not writing a post for this series last month, but at last, it returns!

WHAT IS A TROPE?

In storytelling, a trope is just that — a conceptual figure of speech, a storytelling shorthand for a concept that the audience will recognize and understand instantly. Above all, a trope is a convention. It can be a plot trick, a setup, a narrative structure, a character type, a linguistic idiom… you know it when you see it. (source)

Today’s trope is going to be:

TWO BROS CHILLIN’ A HOT TUBE ONLY ONE FEET APART EVEN IF THEY’RE NOT GAY

I hope y’all were able to get the Vine reference, but basically this is what I decided to use as a title for the trope that consists of a relationship between two men that is devoided of toxic masculinity. It’s a friendship where they can be affectionate, loving and open to each other, despite their sexuality.

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EXHIBIT #A: WILL GRAYSON, WILL GRAYSON, BY JOHN GREEN AND DAVID LEVITHAN

IMG_5003It’s been such a long time since I read this book, but I have so many great memories from it! And it’s all because of the relationship betwen one of the Will Graysons and the true main character of this story, Tiny Cooper.

As I said, even though this book does not center in Tiny, he *is* our main character. He’s the one link between the two Will Grayson’s. The one written by John Green is Tiny’s long-term best friend and I loved how sweet, but realistic their friendship was.

Will is not interested in theater, but joins the play because Tiny insists and because he’s a good friend too. What I liked about their dynamic is how even if they try to keep this no-homo vibe, they literally can’t, lol. Because they love each other too much and it meant a lot to see Will being open and vocal about it after all, regardless of how Tiny can be uncomfortable about public displays of affection.

EXHIBIT #B: DEAR MARTIN, BY NIC STONE

Me talking about Nic Stone, AGAIN??????

Yes.

IMG_3817There are several amazing elements in Dear Martin that I won’t be discussing entirely, but you can check more in-depth reasons to read this book here.

Here we have Manny and Justyce, who have been best-friends for a really long time, and are both some of the few black kids at their prep school. Even though they come from very different backgrounds – with Manny’s dad being CEO of a company, while Justyce comes from a much more humble background and a single mom -, they’re shown to be very close and very understanding of each other’s circumstances.

Their friendship has its ups and downs throughout the book, but what I like a lot about this dynamic here is that Manny is super open and affectionate and brings this out on Justyce too. He’s not shy in telling him he loves him and being his best supportive self, and even if Justyce pretends to be uncomfortable, it’s clear he loves and appreciates Manny just as much.

Be warned that they’re going to break your heart, though!

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EXHIBIT #A: BAS AND ARTHUR, FROM SKAM FRANCE

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I literally do nothing else in this blog but talk about Nic Stone and SKAM remakes. I apologize that my content is so repetitive, but clearly I love them.

I absolutely love the boysquad from SKAM France. They’re hilarious and have such a pure but chaotic friendship. That’s the best way I can define Bas and Arthur’s bromance: chaotic. Both are very… unique individuals, I guess you would say, and when they come together, is pure chaos, but also pure brotherhood.

What makes them fit so well in this trope to me is how neither really understand the concept of toxic masculinity and are constantly flirting with each other, because they’re just sure of their sexuality like that. It’s really funny and adorable, but I also love seeing the other more dramatic layers of their friendship too.

EXHIBIT #B: POLO, ANDER AND GUZMÁN FROM ELITE

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This is the angstiest bromance of all times, period. But God I *love* them.

They’re shown to have been best friends since forever, and I think the reason why they fit into this trope so well is simply because of the undeniable chemistry all the characters in ELITE have with each other. I don’t know how to explain it, but even if they’re not in romantic relationships with each other, there’s always this underlying tension in all dynamics.

I think this is noticeable in all interactions of this trio – some more than others. But I really appreciate how being friends for so long makes it so they’re very comfortable around each other (sometimes too comfortable cof cof), and yet that doesn’t always have to be seen as something romantic or sexual.

I don’t know if I have a favorite tier, like, if I prefer Polo x Guzmán or Ander x Polo. I like all three of them, in their absolute messiness, hilariousness and angst.

If you have any recommendations for this trope, pleeeease, let me know. I’ll love to discuss them with you in the comments!

a discussion about our expectations on own-voices books ft. me opening up about colonization, white-washed references & why i don’t talk about brazil anymore

Hello, friends!

I am bringing yet again another discussion. Being on Twitter recently has sparked my interest in some of these, so at least there’s one good thing coming from my time in that God forsaken app. (Y’all who use Twitter on a regular basis deserve veteran discounts. That shit is so toxic lmao)

During the last month, I took part in the Latinx Readathon and that was my first time reading so many books by Latinx authors. While I did really appreciate my experience, I also felt like it opened up a lot of internal discussions on how much international/white content I consume regularly.

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I don’t stop thinking abt this tweet AND YES I’m gonna do this STUPID standing in front of a tweet trend because it works #foryou #foryoupage

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That’s literally me, lmao. Not only because I blog and talk in English regularly, but because most of my interests are not Brazilian or Latinx. I’ve been more recently facing that regularly, especially since I started university and most of my friends there are interested in Brazilian movies, artists and content creators, and I didn’t know any of them. On one hand, I did feel great because it was feeding my quirky, different, not-like-other-girls Aquarius rising persona where I’d be interested in things that they weren’t, but on the other, I realized I should be supporting more Brazilian creators. We talk a lot about #own-voices, and yet, I’ve read more books published in the US about Latinx-Americans than books published in Brazil by actual Latinx.

That’s not the point of this discussion, though, because I do feel like most of you can not relate with it, and that’s fine. My point is that, in the process of reading more Latinx books, I realized I was, in turn, expecting to immediately like and relate with all books and characters.

IMG_4671I do think that we all have this expectation whenever we pick up an own-voices book. Recently, there was a discourse on Loveless, by Alice Oseman and I won’t be getting into all the points of that discussion, but the most relevant one for this post is the fact many people felt like it was not a “good” own-voices work because sex-repulsed aro/ace were the only ones being represented.

The book never set itself to represent every single ace experience out there. I talked more about this in my last discussion, but this is not how own-voices books should be perceived, because NO book is going to tackle all the numerous experiences that marginalized folks go through.

That’s a big reason as to why I stopped writing about Brazil in my blog. If you followed me last year, you may remember I had a feature called “A Trip to my Home Country” where I talked about elements of Brazilian culture. But I didn’t feel comfortable writing about that anymore because I realized I have a very superficial perspective on Brazil, despite living here my whole life, and I didn’t want to share information that was inaccurate and in return, lead people to believing that this is what Brazil is actually like. But it is also true that I’d never be able to represent, in any work, all Brazilian people out there, because our experiences are VASTLY different.

I think the key is not in the author, but in the reader. When you read a book by an Asian-American author, you should know that this is not representative of every Asian-American person out there. And, in my opinion, it shouldn’t be the author’s responsibility to tweak their story so that readers can understand that this just “one experience”.

IMG_4665Yet, I feel like our expectations, especially when it comes to authors of color, is always that they should do the most. When I picked up History is All You Left Me, recently, I even considered adding in my review that there were no characters of color in the story. But then I started to question why would that be a problem. Just because Adam Silvera is a Latinx man, it doesn’t mean he has to write about only Latinx people. If a white author had written that book, would I’ve been mad that they only included white characters?

I’m sorry to keep repeating the same books, but when I was reading reviews for Like a Love Story, I encountered myself in a similar position. I was looking for reviews that were rather negative to see if others had noticed the problematic remarks that this book contains, and I found a similar issue that people felt like, because the book had been written by an author of color, that they were surprised there were no references of queer people of color throughout the book. While I do understand that is a very valid concern, I’d like to ask that: if Like a Love Story had been written by a white author, would people complain that the references throughout the book were all white as well?

IMG_4188I do think that most of these reviewers would have a problem with it regardless, but it made me think if we don’t have different expectations when it comes to authors of color. If it was a white man talking about how Madonna was a life-changing figure for him, it would be expected, but if it’s a man of color, then we question why wouldn’t he have Marsha P. Johnson then?

It’s kinda funny, actually. It reminds me of an episode in Everybody Hates Chris, where all of his projects would be about Martin Luther King, because being black, that’s what all of his teachers expected of him. Let me remind you that people of color can talk about whatever the fuck they want and write about whatever the fuck they want.

(Of course as long as they’re not being mysoginistic, racist, ableist or homophobic but I think that goes unsaid).

Ok, but how does this tie with everything I said before, about my own experience?

Well, because I do think it’s harder for some of us, folks from colonized countries and who’ve experienced hardcore imperialism over the years, to get to know and be proud of our own country’s culture and art. I’m happy to say that for the past ten years, I’ve seen a rise of young people consuming more Brazilian created content, whether that would be in music or YouTube and even books. But if you ask my mom, who grew up in the 80s, all her favorite musical references were probably American, with a few exceptions of Brazilian artists.

I do understand that we should always strive to be closer to our own culture. But I think it’s always important to remind y’all that this is not a possibility for every person out there, and that some people don’t have white-washed references only out of choice (like me, btw. I completely think in my case it’s a choice and something I need to work and be better at, because I have privileged resources to support my own country’s content and art and I choose to consume mostly international media), but because of historical systems that have oppressed marginalized folks to the point where their own content is seen as irrelevant or less.

So this is something I wish more reviewers would take into consideration when setting up their reviews and expectations for books by authors of color.

Alright. This discussion is huge, but I hope I’ve made myself clear. Let’s talk in the comments.

kaleidoscope of tropes #6: a series of coincidences

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Hello, friends!

Welcome to another post in this series where I discuss tropes. Because I know there’s some new people here, this is just basically me talking endlessly about some of my favorite/least favorite tropes in fictions and providing you with examples. But first:

WHAT IS A TROPE?

In storytelling, a trope is just that — a conceptual figure of speech, a storytelling shorthand for a concept that the audience will recognize and understand instantly. Above all, a trope is a convention. It can be a plot trick, a setup, a narrative structure, a character type, a linguistic idiom… you know it when you see it. (source)

Today’s trope is going to be:

A SERIES OF COINCIDENCES

I overanalyze coincidences constantly. I am not a really spiritual person, so I like to think of them as little signs of the universe that I am on the right track. I really like whenever books explore that: it always feels like a sprinkle of magic in a non-fantastical story.

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EXHIBIT #A: I’LL GIVE YOU THE SUN, BY JANDY NELSON

IMG_1423I talked about this in my review of this book, but the quote “We were all heading for each other on a collision course, no matter what. Maybe some people are just meant to be in the same story.” sums it up pretty well.

This book is filled with coincidences, where these characters’ stories are all intertwined, even if they don’t know it just yet. I know some people who read it would consider it a stretch, but I think it adds to the atmosphere of this book, which is already a bit fantastical, even though is a contemporary novel.

The way these characters view the world is always so interesting, because they’re filled with daydreams and paintings in their heads or superstitions and conversations that never existed. It doesn’t surprise me that so much of their story was also destined in a way, and I love how the author works that throughout the book so you just slowly find out how they’re all connected after all.

EXHIBIT #B: OUR WAYWARD FATE, BY GLORIA CHAO

IMG_5006 2OK, so I do not love this book and I did find the romance to be a bit rushed and insta-love-y, but this story will also explore a number of coincidences so of course I had to mention it.

This one is a re-telling of the Chinese folktale “The Butterfly Lovers”, so I imagine there’s where so many of these coincidences come from. In this book, I’d definitely say this builds the more magical atmosphere of the story, and that’s why I found it so fascinating, because while still being a contemporary novel, it had sprinkles of magical realism that made it really unique.

This book is literally called “wayward fate”, so you can expect that it will present some twists in your expected soulmate story, and it’s all presented in an incredibly smart way.

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EXHIBIT #A: SERENDIPITY

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I don’t typically watch or love Christmas movies, but this one is the best of the best. Set in New York in the 90s, one of our main characters is obsessed with coincidences and takes that as a sign for every decision she makes.

At the beginning of the movie, we see these two characters meeting and hitting it off. Our protagonist then suggests that the way they should check whether or not this is a worth-moving forward relationship is by entering an elevator and choosing a floor at random. If they choose the same one, then it’s meant to be. The movie then continues to explore the series of encounters and misencounters and it’s just a lot of fun.

I honestly related quite a bit to that main character, lmao. Even though I do not make that many life-changing decisions based in out-of-my-control events, I have the tendency to also believe rather blindly that the universe can tells us whenever we’re on the right track or not.

EXHIBIT #B: A LOT LIKE LOVE

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I talked about this movie so many times in my blog it’s kinda ridiculous at this point, lol.

What can I say? I just love myself some Ashton Kutcher, ok.

Much like Serendipity, this one will follow the encounters and misencounters of our main characters through the years. Even though I don’t consider all of them to be coincidences or fate, there’s one at the end of the movie that always makes me!!!! when I watch it and I watch this movie pretty often, lol.

I don’t typically like this “ships of the night” trope (hence why I don’t like movies such as Love, Rosie or One Day) but A Lot Like Love just hits different. The soundtrack is also a bop and I had to recommend it.

If you have recommendations for this trope, please let me know! I’d love to chat with you guys in the comments!

discussion: is aristotle and dante discover the secrets of the universe just a sad book?

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Hello, friends!

Long time no see a discussion post. This one will be sort of a discussion/spoiler-y review, so there’s that, but I am rusty, so please apologize me if this post is all over the place.

IMG_4655If we’ve ever talked before, then you probably know Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe is my favorite book of all times. I pretty much hype up all reviews of this book because I love reading different perspectives on it, but recently, I saw a person on Twitter saying they didn’t like it, because the book made it feel like being gay was the worst tragedy in the world.

When I checked the replies, I realized other people felt the same. That the book was “way too sad” and that being gay is not only about being sad, and that they were so done with tragic representation of gays in media.

And while I do recognize that Ari and Dante is a sad book and we deserve more diverse queer rep in media that is not only tragic, I think these thoughts can be very limiting. So, yeah, let’s discuss that.


“Maybe we just lived between hurting and healing.”

At first, I felt like what this person was saying made no sense, because the ending of the book is happy and hopeful. It shows that these two boys have finally found each other and are going to be together. But, obviously, that does not compensate for the fact that Ari spends most of this book hating himself. Then, it also made me question whether just following an individual story says enough about an entire community.

Like, because Ari’s story is sad, then it’s not worth-telling? Where do we draw the line between what is an individual experience that the author feels like sharing and a representation for an entire community?

IMG_2886That was one thing I felt when reading American Panda, by Gloria Chao. In that book, our protagonist, Mei, has very overbearing and strict parents, who do not accept of her taking any other course in life than going to medical school and becoming a doctor. While this definitely can be seen as a stereotipical view on Taiwanese parents, we actually learn in the acknowledgements that Mei’s story was inspired by the author’s, who experienced something similar with her own parents.

So, just because Mei’s story can be “stereotypical”, does it mean it’s not worth-telling? One thing that the author pointed out in her acknowledgements as well that I think works wonderfully for this discussion too is that this is one of the reasons why we need more own-voices stories. Because Mei should not have to represent every single Taiwanese-American kid out there, and their stories can be so different and unique that all it means is we need more representations of said stories.

Therefore, it’s not just because Ari’s story was sad and figuring out his sexuality wasn’t an easy journey for him, that this is how every single other Latinx gay kid feels. And this is why we need more Latinx queer authors, to tell these other stories.


“You know what I’ve learned from you and Mom? I’ve learned not to talk. I’ve learned how to keep everything I feel buried deep inside of me. And I hate you for it.”

But then, the other thing is that I also feel like by assuming that Ari’s story is nothing but a tragedy, this person is completely failing to recognize what was happening around him. And, how, yes, being a Mexican-American gay kid in the 1980s probably wasn’t the easiest thing in the world.

IMG_4187I recently read Like a Love Story, by Adib Nazemian, which I have mixed feelings about that are not really relevant to this discussion. But that book is set entirely during the AIDS crisis in New York and a lot of Reza’s (one of our protagonists, who immigrated from Iran to the US and is figuring out his sexuality) inner monologue is extremely negative, and he has a lot of internalized homophobia.

However, we have to consider that it was extremely scary for him to be a gay kid in the 1980s, when there were still so many misconceptions about what AIDS was and how it actually was transmitted. It’s not possible, in my opinion, to judge his thoughts with a 2020 mindset, where you can literally find more information about AIDS on your phone in less than a minute.

Back to Ari and Dante, though, I want to take this time to talk about one of the layers in that book that means the most to me, which is the machsimo and overall “unsaid things”, which I feel like it’s pretty standard for Latinx communities and one thing I related *so much* with in this book.

(Again, this is just based in *my* experience and I don’t think this should count as a representation of all Latinx families).

As examples of that, we have one of the biggest conflicts of the book, which is the fact Ari has a brother in prison and no one talks about him. I don’t know if this applies to other families and cultures, but being Latina myself, I definitely feel like we live in this paradoxal world where we can be open about so much and not at all about other things. Having an *entire* person you simply don’t talk about is a very common unsaid rule in my family and just shows how hard it can be to approach certain topics with your loved ones.

Ari also struggles a lot with talking to his dad. As much as he wants to, he also finds impossible to open up and express his feelings, much like his dad does. Machismo is still super present and I definitely see how a lot of the men in family and just around me, overall, grew up feeling like they were not allowed to express emotion and had always to be “strong”.

That’s why it takes so long for Ari to understand his feelings for Dante. Because, and this is a direct quote:

“I had learned to hide what I felt. No, that’s not true. There was no learning involved. I had been born knowing how to hide what I felt.”

And that is because the culture he was immersed since birth was not one that ever allowed him to be vulnerable.


“I left him alone for a while. But then, I decided I wanted to be with him. I decided that maybe we left each other alone too much. Leaving each other alone was killing us.”

When I first picked up this book, I did not know it was a LGBT read. I did not know that Ari and Dante were going to fall in love. I simply thought it was a friendship story.

Therefore, I do think that my judgement is a bit clouded, because I never went to this story expecting a gay romance from it. And so I was never disappointed that I got so little of it, and in fact, what I got the most of is what I still love about this book the most for to this day: Ari’s growth.

IMG_4659To me, this is not a book about whether or not Ari and Dante are going to end up together, and I feel like people who only see it for that are reading it COMPLETELY WRONG.

This book is about Ari learning that there is power in being vulnerable, in letting people in. It’s about Ari understanding himself by understanding the people around him – his dad, his brother, his mom, his aunt, even Dante. He spends most of this book trapped in his own cicle of hate (again, a direct quote), because that’s the only way he can comprehend his own emotions – by ignoring or hating on them. He’s never been taught how to understand love, affection, friendship, so yeah, it takes him a bit longer to feel like he’s worthy of a love story.


Overall, I think the point of this discussion isn’t even telling you whether or not Ari and Dante is “just a sad book”. It is sad, but there are reasons for it, and it’s ultimately, so much more than that.

If you’re looking for books about queer joy, I highly recommend this post I wrote for Pride Month, but I’d also like to recommend four extra titles I read & loved:

CAMP, BY L.C. ROSEN. Has a very smart take on the toxic masculinity in the community, while still being a fun & light-hearted read.

HER ROYAL HIGHNESS, BY RACHEL HAWKINS. Girl falls in love with her roommate, but her roommate also happens to be the Princess of Scotland. Free of drama, except for the royal one, of course.

THE GENTLEMAN’S GUIDE TO VICE AND VIRTUE, BY MACKENZI LEE. Historical fiction, friends to lovers and Monty is pretty much the definition of chaotic bi.

YOU SHOULD SEE ME IN A CROWN, BY LEAH JOHNSON. One of the best 2020 releases, by far. Prom shenenigans, A+ family and friendships and a swoon-worthy F/F relationship.

Alright. If you read so far in this 1.5k words post, thank you! If you have read Ari & Dante, let’s chat in the comments: what are the themes you cared the most about when you first read it? Do you have any other recommendations for queer books that are not sad at all?

kaleidoscope of tropes #5: failed marriages

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Hello, friends!

On June 12th, we celebrated Valentine’s Day in Brazil. Even though this date is celebrated in February for most countries, we end up celebrating it around Saint Anthony’s Day, as he is known for being a match-maker in Catholic traditions. A lot of people who want to get married will pray for Saint Anthony.

In honor of that, I decided to talk about one of my favorite romantic tropes. I already have a post where I shared five of my favorite and least-favorites (and that was also posted during Brazilian Valentine’s Day, lol), but today I will be sharing a specific one that I love.

But first,

WHAT IS A TROPE?

In storytelling, a trope is just that — a conceptual figure of speech, a storytelling shorthand for a concept that the audience will recognize and understand instantly. Above all, a trope is a convention. It can be a plot trick, a setup, a narrative structure, a character type, a linguistic idiom… you know it when you see it. (source)

Today’s trope will be:

FAILED MARRIAGES

I honestly don’t know why I consider this trope so satisfying. I think it’s interesting because you jump into the story already knowing these characters have history; they’re married now, so they were in love once. It’s all about navigating these past feelings that are lying under the surface, as well as facing their most recent problems that have broke them apart.

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EXHIBIT #A: YOU DESERVE EACH OTHER, BY SARAH HOGLE

IMG_3918Technically, this couple is not married yet, they’re just engaged, but I think it counts. They have an established relationship that has essentially lost all its spark. They spend most of this book trying to make the other person give up on the wedding, and falling back in love in the process.

It’s a really interesting dynamic to consider they’re enemies to lovers, but already engaged, because that means they know *exactly* what to do to push the other person’s buttons. They know what makes the other person frustrated, and what the other person prefers, so really is as petty and childish as you can imagine, but also very entertaining, ofc.

I think the way the author explored their sexual tension was also really well done. Quickly, their dynamic of “who’s going to give up first?” becomes “who’s going to give in first?” which was equally entertaining.

EXHIBIT #B: LOVE HER OR LOSE HER, BY TESSA BAILEY

IMG_4181I definitely would say this is the book that goes the *hardest* in the failed part. Our main characters, Rose and Dominic, have been married for over a year now, but their relationship has not been the same for a while. They barely talk and their only moment of intimacy is their scheduled sex nights every Tuesday.

I really liked how the book talked about couple’s therapy. Is it uncomfortable, cringey and super awkward? Yes. Did I still devour that? Of course! I don’t know why I liked watching that so much, but I always like seeing characters talk about their significant other to a third person. It’s completely different from the way they talk to each other and most of the times, a lot better.

Even though I do think this book won’t be for everyone, simply because Dominic’s character is one of those overly alpha males that can be tiring to read about, I did find it entertaining AF.

EXHIBIT #C: TO HAVE AND TO HOAX, BY MARTHA WATERS

IMG_4180In this historical romance, James and Violet had a real whirl-wind kind of first year of marriage, but they haven’t properly talked in years now, despite living in the same house. Due to a lot of circumstances, Violet decides to fake an ilness in order to get back her husband’s attention, and everything kind of escalates from there.

I think the journey to these characters is very interesting, because they’ve always had natural banter and agreed to argue a lot, even when their marriage was happy. They’d typically make up in great fashion afterwards, but never truly communicating and understanding why they upset each other. I think it was really nice how the author explored their growth and how they could *not* resolve all their issues just by kissing them away.

Nonetheless, their sexual tension was A+ and so was their banter, as Violet pretends to be sick and they keep playing games. It’s definitely a bit childish, but it was all acknowledged on page, so I think it makes it a little bit better.

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EXHIBIT #A: 17 AGAIN

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OK, so I know that at first, I strictly watched this movie because Zac Efron was on it, and even though it does have a handful of inappropriate relationships as any movie involving time travel does, I still love and re-watch the heck out of it.

We start out the movie following 17-year-old Mike O’Donnell, who gives up on a basketball scholarship to start a family with his high school sweetheart. When we jump to 17 years later, Mike has a miserable job, which he’s just been fired of and is also divorcing said high school sweetheart. He then gets the chance to go back to his 17 year old body and re-do everything.

Even though it is awkward to see Mike reconnecting with his wife in the body of a 17 year old, it is very interesting to see how he learns from his choices and strives to be there for his wife as much as he can. The speech from the gif above is absolute *chef’s kiss*.

EXHIBIT #B: DID YOU HEAR ABOUT THE MORGANS

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After becoming witnesses of a murder, this divorced couple is thrown in the Witness Protection Program and forced to isolate together in a small town in Wyoming. This movie contains all the country, small white town references you can think of, and it’s hilarious because of that.

But the progression of the relationship is also interesting. Because now that this couple is forced to be together, they have no other option but facing the things that broke them apart and hopefully work through them.

I honestly feel like I had much higher expectations for this movie, and especially considering I don’t like Sarah Jessica Parker, I don’t understand why I thought I’d love it. Still, I think it’s a great example of this trope!

Now, it’s your turn: do you also like the failed marriage trope? Do you have any books, tv shows or movies to recommend that contain said trope? Let me know in the comments!

 

kaleidoscope of tropes #4: the premonition sex

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Hello, friends!

Welcome to another post in this series! This one will be slightly different, though, because I’ll actually be discussing a trope I don’t like, instead of one of my favorites.

WHAT IS A TROPE?

In storytelling, a trope is just that — a conceptual figure of speech, a storytelling shorthand for a concept that the audience will recognize and understand instantly. Above all, a trope is a convention. It can be a plot trick, a setup, a narrative structure, a character type, a linguistic idiom… you know it when you see it. (source)

Our trope for today will be

THE PREMONITION SEX

That’s what I like to call whenever books or shows have the main characters have sex right before the biggest twist in the story. It has a “premonition” feel to it, because it’s almost like by having sex they were already predicting something bad was about to happen and break them appart, even if temporarily.

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I feel like most people don’t even notice that they’re doing this when they’re writing a story. But, it’s always bothered me, especially in YA.

This is a small list of books I remember having this trope:

  • Alex, Approximately, by Jenn Bennett
  • All The Bright Places, by Jennifer Niven
  • When Dimple Met Rishi, by Sandhya Menon
  • My Life Next Door, by Huntley Fitzpatrick
  • The Odds of Loving Grover Cleveland, by Rebekah Crane
  • Queens of Geek, by Jen Wilde
  • Eleanor & Park, by Rainbow Rowell

I am sure this is present in a lot of other books, but I don’t remember that many details about some titles.

IMG_3929And this is *why* I think this is such an annoying trope:

First, because it pitches “sex” as a life-changing event. I know everyone will have their own personal view on sex, intimacy and what it means to them. But, from a strict biological point of view, there’s nothing life-changing about sex. (And, no, I will not be talking about hymens and whatever, because that assumes a heteronormative kind of sex that does not apply to everyone).

However, when authors put their character’s first time right before the major plot twist, where actual life-changing circumstances will come to play (main character’s mom just announces she’s adopted! Love interest gets accepted in college in the other side of the country! Major fight breaks between them – will they find each other after such fall out?), it becomes impossible not to associate the two.

IMG_4049And they should *not* be associated. I remember reading All the Bright Places for the first time and feeling so bad, because I knew that the moment they had sex, something bad would happen in the story. And that’s not how sex should be perceived! I should not fear for my characters to finally do the deed, because I know the tone of the story will change dramactically, because this is not how it happens in real life. Your life doesn’t go from bubbly roses to emo soundtrack just because you had sex!

Another reason why I hate this trope is because it can add even more drama to the storyline. Let’s say that these characters have been together for a while, but have yet to do *it*. There’s typically a lot of anticipation – in most cases, because all the books I mention feature straight couples, the girl will be nervous and the guy will be fucking ready to do it from day one – and so when it happens, it really feels like a milestone for their relationship.

Just so they can break up the next day because of whatever tragic event the story brings to us.

IMG_4051You can almost always expect a regretful inner monologue from one of the characters saying that they wish they hadn’t done it. And, honestly, it’s understandable! If you trust that person enough to have sex with them, just to have that truth be broken, it hurts a lot. And that’s why I feel like the sex always have to come before the “fall out” in these books – because this trust has to be marked with this event, just so the characters can feel even worse when they do break up.

(Is this post even making sense? I hope so).

All of this to say that this is *not* necessary. You can show a really emotional trust bond between characters without them having sex – that is not the only way you can show to another person you’re comitted to them. And it also does not sit well with me that this is only used to add drama to a story.

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One of my favorite movies of all times is guilty of having said trope – 27 Dresses. The only reason why I feel like this one doesn’t bother me as much is because there is no implicit expectation in the sex. It’s not the “first time” for any of the characters, and it happens sort of out of the blue, without them having an established relationship beforehand.

I think this lack of expectation doesn’t make this sex feel like a huge premonition, even though it pretty much is. And in this case, sex is also used to show the trust between the characters, that is obviously broken the next morning due to a huge misunderstanding.

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The last episode of season 3 of Gossip Girl also features an amazing example of this trope. The way Gossip Girl deals with sex has always been problematic. Not only there’s way too much implication of these TEENAGERS having kinky sex at 17, but it is also pitched as this life-changing event that bonds these characters together forever. Like, no thanks.

Let me know in the comments if you’d ever noticed this trope in the past and if it bothers you as much as it bothers me, hahah. Do you remember any books or shows/movies where sex was used as a premonition for the big twist in the story?

kaleidoscope of tropes #3: we were fucked up but you still made sure i slept on my side

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Hello, friends!

This series has been a ride so far and this is probably the most “out of the box” one I share yet, but hopefully y’all will still enjoy it.

WHAT IS A TROPE?

In storytelling, a trope is just that — a conceptual figure of speech, a storytelling shorthand for a concept that the audience will recognize and understand instantly. Above all, a trope is a convention. It can be a plot trick, a setup, a narrative structure, a character type, a linguistic idiom… you know it when you see it. (source)

Our trope for today will be:

WE WERE FUCKED UP BUT YOU STILL MADE SURE I SLEPT ON MY SIDE

I don’t know how else to describe it, hence why I got a music lyric from one of my favorite bands – Wallows – to illustrate it.

This trope is basically the one where two people who are normally self-destructive, become yet incredibly protective of their love interest. They are not able to take care of themselves, but are eager to take care of the other one regardless.

It’s definitely not the healthiest of the tropes, but I’m still weak for it nonetheless.

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EXHIBIT #A: KAZ AND INEJ, FROM SIX OF CROWS

IMG_1734I think Kaz & Inej are a very good representation of this trope. These characters are both facing their own individual demons and past traumas, but are working their hardest to overcome that in order to be what the other person needs.

I wouldn’t say Kaz is self-destructive, in fact, I think he has a really big sense of self-preservation. But that’s nothing compared to how much he’s willing to protect Inej, while still recognizing her as the badass girl that she is that doesn’t need anyone to take care of her.

But still, when Kaz said: “I’d have come for you. And if I couldn’t walk, I’d crawl to you, and no matter how broken we were, we’d fight together“, I think he said enough. These characters are not in their bests, that’s for sure, but they’re willing to do their bests to save each other.

EXHIBIT #B: JAKE AND AUGUST, FROM THE WICKER KING

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I feel like if you’re into this trope, then you’d really like this book, but otherwise, I would not recommend it across the board. I know a lot of people who loved The Wicker King, but I still recognize some of its problematic elements.

In this book, we’re following two childhood best friends, as one of them begins to have hallucinations. These characters are definitely not prepared to deal with it, but are doing their best, no matter what. They don’t have much support outside of each other, and it’s incredibly heart-wrenching to follow their journey to preservation.

August is so desperate to protect Jack and help him through it all, even though he himself has a lot of issues to work on as well. These two characters couldn’t be more flawed, but I appreciate a lot how they strive to be what the other one needs.

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EXHIBIT #A: WAYNE AND DEL, FROM WAYNE

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Wayne is such an underrated TV show that I wish more people talked about. It’s a YouTube Original with surprisingly great acting, and has the same energy as The End of the F***ing World, so if any of those ring a bell, go watch it!

These two characters are pretty fucked up. Wayne has a really serious problem with violence, Del is escaping her troubled household, and they end up going on a roadtrip together to retrieve Wayne’s dad’s car.

I love how even though Wayne seems apathetic, especially to violence, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t have feelings, moreover for Del. And even though Del comes from a place where feelings like comfort and kindness are basically non-existent, she still takes care of Wayne really well.

It’s really interesting seing a relationship blossom between these two characters, especially under such unsettling circumstances.

EXHIBIT #B: CHUCK AND BLAIR, FROM GOSSIP GIRL

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This one is a CLASSIC, obviously.

Now, I’m definitely not claiming this couple is perfect, because they’re not, and I understand people who would find them problematic these days. But I still have a really big soft spot for them, as they were one of my #1 OTP’s.

Chuck is one of the most self-destructive characters I know, and I actually find really interesting how, unlike the ones I previously mentioned, this behaviour does affect badly his relationship with Blair, so his journey to a healthier relationship with her, has to begin with a self-love journey too.

I think the most self-destructive behaviors that Blair had was dating Chuck, lol. He was definitely no good for her for most of the series, but as Selena Gomez once said, the heart wants what it wants, am I right?

Alright, friends! Now, it’s your turn: if my examples were clear enough to describe this invented trope, let me know in the comments if you have any other to add to the list and how you feel about this dynamic – is it too borderline problematic for you? Do you prefer your couples healthy and sane, like God intended? (No judging, btw!) Let’s chat in the comments!

in which i discuss themed reads

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Hello, friends!

It’s been long overdue since I last wrote a discussion post. I feel like these are the most challenging posts for me to write, along with reviews. They just eat up my last brain cells and I still never find they’re good enough. But, anyway!

I wanted to discuss the idea of doing “themed reads” aka reading only books under a certan theme for a month. I’ve tried these before and I wanted to argue some of the pros and cons.

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I really love watching YouTube and one of my favorite Booktubers, Adriana from Perpetual Pages, does this quite often. For Black History Month, for example, they only read titles by black authors; or during Women’s History Month, they only read by female authors.

I’ve always thought this idea was really interesting and it would be a great motivation to read more diversely. It’s also fun, because it allows me to read from different genres, such as fantasy, romance or YA contemporary, as long as it fits under the theme.

I know a lot of read-a-thons do that, but I think there’s some type of pressure in read-a-thons to read more than you typically would and themed reads is just reading at your normal pace, but trying to prioritize specific books.

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In the year of our Lord, 2019, I did themed reads for the months of February (Black History Month), when I read exclusively from black authors; May (Mental Health Awareness Month), when I only read books that had mental health rep of some sort; and June (Pride Month), when I only read books with queer characters.

Even though I didn’t excell in all of these, I think it was a great chance to take some books off of my long-time TBR and also read new titles. During Pride Month, for example, I both read books I had wanted to read since forever – aka A Song of Achilles – and books that had just been released – aka Red, White and Royal Blue.

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So, after having tried themed reads for a whole month before, I think I can now discuss some of the pros and cons of it.

Starting with the positives:

  • Motivation to read more diversely! In the future, I want to do an entire month where I dedicate myself to read only about disability, because I know I’ve been lacking to read more with this rep. Even though you’ll be focusing specifically on a certain theme, you can still read from any genre or age range you’d like.
  • Getting to know new authors/titles. When doing my research for my themed months, I ended up finding out a lot of new authors I could check out. I find that this can put you truly out of your comfort zone and reach for people you had never heard of before and can be pleasant surprises!
  • Building a “repertoire“. I don’t know how else to call this, so I’ll be using the word “repertoire”, even though it is in the incorrect one. But, basically, you’ll have more books to recommend in the future under this specific theme, because you dedicated and prioritized these titles, so you’ll definitely learn more about it.

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  • You can be behind in new releases. I think this would mostly be a con for people that get a lot of ARCs and need to stay on top of those, due to their release dates and other deadlines. If you dedicate yourself to read only a certain theme in a month and the ARC you have doesn’t really fit under that theme, you’ll definitely end up behind.
  • Not the best for mood-reading. I considered myself a mood reader for a long time, but I’ve been slowly getting more on track with the reading schedule I set for myself at the beginning of the month. However, if you really are a mood reader, it can be hard to just pick whatever you want, since you still have to stay under the theme/topic.
  • It can get tiring. I feel like it obviously depends on the theme and how you decide to do it, because this can totally be as diverse and different as you want, without ever getting tiresome. But for Mental Health Awareness Month, for example, I only read YA contemporary. If you’re not a fan of the genre, or you need to mix it up often, it probably will be a burden at the end of the month.

Now, I want to hear from you: have you ever tried “themed reads” for a month? If so, how did you do it? Do you think it would work for you? Let’s chat in the comments!

 

in which i share a personal timeline of my favorite male characters

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Hello, friends!

I hope you all aren’t tired already of hear me rambling about favorites, because apparently that’s all I can do. And also, I haven’t been feeling the sharing gripe recently. Trust me, I’m still always down to rant, but for the past few days, life has been so stressful and gloomy as it is, I haven’t felt like sharing any more negativity.

So, instead, I thought it would be fun to take a trip down to memory lane and share with you how my obsession with male characters hasn’t started yesterday. It pretty much goes down to when I was only six and hasn’t left me since.


Honestly, if you weren’t a Latino kid in the early 2000s and have no idea what REBELDE is, then I can only be sorry for you.

Okay, but to actually give you some context: Rebelde was a Mexican telenovela, following this group of teenagers who were, indeed, rebeldes, in their prestigious boarding school. All the characters come from different backgrounds, some more privileged than others, and they end up forming a band halfway through the novela too and the songs are purely iconic.

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I was actually re-watching it recently and it’s a shit show, truly. It’s definitely not appropriate for a six year old to be watching and most of the romantic relationships were incredibly toxic. But, you know, you can’t judge a 2004 show with a 2019 mindset, but oh boy if it was weird.

Nonetheless, Miguel is still probably the most good looking man I’ve ever seen in my life. (Perhaps, you may recognize him from Sense 8). If I ever walked into school one day, and there was a guy like him just standing there, I’d never leave either. His story was also really angsty and dramatic – he enrolls in this specific school because he wants to get revenge from a certain family but then ends up falling in love with a girl from this family -, so I was truly sold at that.


Raise your hand if you also spent your entire childhood in front of the TV because of Disney Shows.

No, but really, not to get super controversial here but it pains me sometimes to think that parents these days try so much to protect their kids from TV. Not that I think it was healthy to spend so much time watching shows instead of playing, but some of the stuff I watched as a kid was what truly shaped me into the person I am today. Starting with Zack & Cody, truly.

(I decided not to talk about Troy Bolton, because tbh he’s still my crush to this day but he’d be a part of this, for sure. If I am the person I am now, it’s because of High School Musical, without a doubt).

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The Suite Life of Zack and Cody was my favorite Disney Channel show and I still have a lot of fond memories of it. Cody was my ultimate favorite character too. He was really nerdy and awkward and his relationship with Bailey was probably the first ship I would’ve gone down with.

It’s also kinda funny how I loved Cody with the same intensity I hated Zack, probably because he was a troublemaker that could get away with *everything* and my Libra self was just not having it.


I started reading Percy Jackson back in 2010 and I basically haven’t been the same since. I talk about this series way too much, but it is indeed my #1 favorite thing in the whole world. Plus, it was the one series that introduced me to the bookish online fandom, so I think it’s safe to say that without PJO all those years back, I wouldn’t have a blog today.

Thanks to Percy Jackson, I found out about Tumblr, and then, book recommendations from Tumblr users, and then Divergent, The Hunger Games, The Maze Runner and just the YA book community in general.

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But this series wouldn’t be the same without Percy. (God, I hate to even think of a world without Percy. What would I be doing, then?) His personality is what makes this book so perfect. He’s hilarious, smart and very sarcastic. He’s brave and would go absolutely anywhere for the people that he loves. His sense of loyalty almost blinds him sometimes. I loved learning more about Greek myths with him.

Having read around ten books with Percy by now, I can safely say I’d read absolutely anything with him. If he was a real person, he’d be my favorite one ever.


The truth is: if you were on Tumblr at all in 2012, you were watching Teen Wolf. There’s no way you weren’t. That’s classic TV for you right here.

Teen Wolf started out as this real trashy MTV show, but apparently Dylan O’Brien’s nose was so perfectly shaped it convinced all of us to continue watching and the show sort of blew up out of nowhere. And while it is very much true I only started watching this show because of the hype, I ultimately stayed because of the characters.

Granted: I gave up on the show by season five, but it was out of love. I liked these characters so much I didn’t want to ruin my idea of them by continuing on with the show that was becoming worse by the minute.

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And Scott was the best of them. Sadly, the most underrated one too and everyone in the fandom sort of forgot about him, even though he was the protagonist (!), which makes no sense. He was the most thoughtful and amazing person. He literally couldn’t hurt a fly. He was carrying and kinda awkward and grows so much throughout the show.

If you start this out, hating how selfish Scott is for wanting to play lacrosse over taking responsibility on the fact he’s a werewolf, just wait. His character development brings me to tears every time.


If you’ve read any of my posts before, you probably know by now I have a thing with The Maze Runner. It’s pretty intense. I’m just totally obsessed with this series and all of the characters.

I remember reading The Maze Runner in 2013 because it was my favorite book of the year. And I remember that specifically because 2013 was also the worst year of my life – I’d just changed schools and was being bullied pretty bad, but I had these characters to count on. It was also the moment I think I truly felt how reading can shield you from the outside world.

(Have you sensed yet there’s a trend with The Maze Runner books showing up at some of the lowest moments of my life and just brightening up my day instantly?)

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Even though I love everyone in this and it’s hard to pick favorites, Minho was the one that caught my attention the most, probably because of his really spunky personality. He just takes no crap. He was really badass and also a runner, which is like the nicest role you can have in the Glade, but it didn’t make him an asshole.

Also, when Death Cure rolled around and I picked that one up, it broke me to see how, no matter how strong and badass he tried to come off as, he was still a huge softie inside with too much love for his friends.


To be honest, I’m putting 2016 here but I don’t remember exactly when I watched this amazing K-drama that changed my life for good. It was the first drama I’ve ever watched and it is magnificent, truly.

You Who Came From the Stars follows our main character Do Min Joon, who’s an alien who’s been living on Earth for the past 300 years. His ship left without him and now he has to wait for it to get back, which only happens every 300 years. Two months before his expected departure, he meets Cheon Song Yi, this really loud drama actress, who moves to the apartment next door.

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The dynamics in this drama are hilarious and the storyline is so well crafted. It’s truly perfection.

But Do Min Joon is the cherry on top. He has a very serious personality, but throughout the show, you start seeing more and more layers of him. He can also be really sweet, but a true badass with his alien powers. Plus, his knowledge and cardigans were so adorable. I died every time I got to see him expressing his true feelings and most importantly, seeing him smirk.


Okay, I’ve rambled about male characters for almost 1.5k words for now, so I swear this post will be over soon. We’ve reached 2019 already, so soon you’ll be free, I promise.

Even though Jonathan is the one character from most recent years I can pin point as being a true obsession, I am not that attached to Stranger Things as a show. I still think it’s entertaining and great, but I do not care about anyone else with anywhere near close the intensity I love Jonathan. And the worst part is that I don’t even know how to explain why.

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If I’m being honest, there’s nothing about Jonathan that caught my attention instantly. I don’t think the actor is particularly good looking (but I mean, with that hairstyle, who is?) and he wasn’t a protagonist either.

But there was something about his outsider-personality, or the way he looked like a bad-boy but was actually a really big softie who liked photography, dreamt of going to NYU, had an awful dad and was still loving and kind to his family like no one else that got me wrapped up. He’s the biggest sweetheart there is and the fact the show & the fandom just don’t appreciate him enough will leave me forever bitter.

(Like, I was legit trying to find Jonathan stickers on Redbubble and I couldn’t find a *single* one? Wth).

If you’ve reached this far in this IMMENSE post: thank you! Let me know in the comments if you relate to any of my favorite characters & what was your first book/TV crush ever and how much your taste on characters has changed over the years!