top five characters i am unhealthily attached to because i relate to at least one of their personality traits


Hello, friends!

By the time you’re reading this post: I am now 20 years old. That’s just… Yeah, no ❤️. I refuse to believe I am no longer a teen, especially considering I don’t feel like I’ve aged at all since I was fourteen and I’m still pretty much the exact same person, with the exact same interests. My brain has not gotten the memo I am growing up, basically.

But in honor of that, I’ll share some of my five favorite characters. Like the name suggests: I am weirdly attached to these characters because I relate to them in some way, and therefore have now started to project my entire life onto them, because why not, right?

ANYWAY. Let’s talk about them:


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I am sorry to my past self who started watching Elite in 2018 (by the way, season 1 was released on my birthday, so we were literally meant to be) and hated Guzman with all my heart. Uh, yeah, here we are now.

Elite is my absolutely trash child and, considering how many times I mention this show in my blog, I’m sure y’all are more than aware. But yeah, just reiterating: I KNOW it’s a problematic show. I still love it.

Guzman is pretty much the mom of the group – and so am I. He takes care of everyone and is extremely loyal to his friends, wanting to be around them and to have them open up to him as well. At the same time, his friends are constantly hesitant to do so, because they don’t want to be judged, which is pretty much my life story summed up in a sentence.

Of course, Guzman changes a lot throughout the seasons and I don’t relate to all of his character, but I’ve always appreciated his loyalty and his strong morals, despite everything that goes around him.


Jonathan Byers | Wiki | Comics Português AminoFor the longest time, I’d never been able to explain why I loved Jonathan so much. He’s my favorite character in Stranger Things, definitely in my top ten characters of life and I am so weirdly attached to him when most everyone who watches this show couldn’t care any less.

And I could not, for the life of me, tell anyone what I found so captivating about his character. But after re-watching Stranger Things this year with my mom, I realized.

Jonathan is, in a lot of ways, just the person I would like to be: a protective older brother, a hard-working guy, a dilligent son. But he’s also a person who I already am like: lowkey extremely judgemental (he literally has a line that goes: “I don’t like most people, he’s just in the vast majority” which is literally my motto), mom of the group and someone who believes in the power of being different and unique.

(Basically, Jonathan and I both have an Aquarius rising and I’ll take no complaints).



I am totally exposing myself in this post, but oh well.

From the first time I watched Hamilton, I already saw so much of myself in Burr and he’s always been my favorite character.

I also then found out the most popular Myers-Brigg personality type and Enneagram that fans associate with him are the same as mine, so we’re both INFJ and Enneagram 5, which means we’re the same person.

I don’t know how good that is, considering Burr is a sort of antagonist in the Hamilton musical and also just doesn’t do much, but some of us WAIT FOR IT ok.

I relate to the way he’s not about *doing* things, but rather overthinking them. He’s not a character who’s interested in being the first to stand up, but would rather stand to the side and wait. As someone who could never see herself being an “activist” of any sort, I lowkey relate.


SKAM GIF's - • Noora • - WattpadY’all didn’t think this was going to be a SKAM-free post, right?

I don’t know if Noora is a character I relate or simply a character I want to be like. I think it’s a little bit of both.

I’ve always admired her character so much for standing up to what’s right and being a true feminist icon. But throughout her season, we also learn there’s so much more to her. She’s also the mom of the group and puts so much of herself into helping and being there for others. She’s not used to letting her feelings rule what she does and always overthinks and rationalizes everything, so it’s really great seeing her journey of opening up.

There’s also this scene when someone offers her alcohol, but she denies, and says she’ll have hot chocolate instead, which is the biggest mood of all times.


21 Times Lara Jean Covey From TATBILB Made You Say "Same" | Lara ...

Honestly, by the end of this post, y’all will probably think I am insane. Because if I manage to be both Guzmán and Lara Jean, then something is not right. But I promise it makes sense.

Lara Jean is that female character I’ll go to the ends of the earth to defend (along with Divergent Tris). I love her so much and I think every single one of her actions is understandable and justified. It always baffles me when people say they found the books or Lara Jean’s character to be immature, because, uh, of course, she’s a 15 year old, what did you expect?

But I digress.

The most relatable trait from Lara Jean’s character to me is how she romanticizes everything, and yet, is terrified of romance. She loves the *idea* of it: in movies and books. She’s obsessed about looking through antiques and daydreaming of its past owners and the tragic and romantic lives they could’ve had. But when it comes to accepting romance for herself, she has a hard time opening up and letting people in. Obviously now I am able to understand that for me, this means I’m aromantic, but back when I was still trying to figure my sexuality out, I related SO much to Lara Jean’s character, and I think I always will in a sense.

Let me know in the comments which characters you relate to & which are you just obsessed with for no reason, hahah.

20 comentários sobre “top five characters i am unhealthily attached to because i relate to at least one of their personality traits

  1. Lais you are the actual best ever, so happiest of birthdays to you. I hope you had the most amazing day ever and sending you all the love and cake!!!!!

    Also absolutely loved reading this post and love that you love all of these characters. I only know Jonathan and LJ but totally can see it. Especially about romantisizing everything but struggling with romance, bc even tho I’m single (lmao) IT IS SO TRUE!! Also, I feel the same way about Mike as you do Jonathan. I can’t explain why I love him, I think its the geekiness but also vulnerability?? But nobody understands and everybody hates on Mike and I,,, also digress haha

    Happy birthday Lais <3<3<3<3<3


  2. This is such a funny thing to think about!! I would probably take days to figure out my list though, because I’m so picky and I have so much trouble finding characters whose personality I relate /that much/ to XD

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    • Thank you so muchhh! Ahh, I do recommend you trying out. It was quite theurapetical, honestly, hahah. I am quite the opposite – I relate to so many characters, I had to narrow down when creating this list, hahah.
      Thank you so much for reading, Marta! Sorry it took me forever to get back to you! 💕

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  3. Happy (belated) birthday!!

    Well I can certainly relate to an uncomfortable degree to getting overly attached to characters that I relate to a little too hard. It’s a whole thing. (Some of mine are Gansey from The Raven Cycle, Luna Lovegood from Harry Potter, and Georgia from Loveless.)

    Burr has always been one of most relatable characters in Hamilton to me. I literally had the line “I am the one thing in life I can control” written on my whiteboard for most of college.

    Also I would love to hear more about your defense of Tris from Divergent bc I definitely related to her a ton when I read those books but now everyone claims that she’s a poorly written character!! It’s been too long since I read them to have a real opinion about it, but it’s definitely something I have Thoughts about.

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    • Thank you so muchhh, Margaret!
      Ahhh, Georgia from Loveless was definitely a contestant for this post too. Her character meant a lot to me when I read the book!
      Wow, that’s so nice! I’ve been thinking about this quote a lot, I really wanted to get a sticker of it, but I like the idea of just writing it somewhere I see often too. It’s a beautiful quote!
      AHHH, EXACTLY! I love Tris and that’s why it hurts me when people say she’s a bad character, because I relate so much to her and I actually find her to be a super well written character, who was developed but still true to herself until the end? You totally inspired me to write more about it!
      Thank you so much for reading, Margaret! 💛


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